How to Love Your Vagina Every Day
So many of us have grown ashamed and embarrassed about our vaginas, which may cause us to fear it and maybe even hate it. But it is so important to love your vagina each and every day. Self-care is about more than taking a bath and doing face masks, it’s about truly loving and appreciating every single part of you—including your vagina.
Here are things that you can do to make sure that your vagina is happy, healthy, and loved:
Don’t Skip That Gynecologist Appointment
I know that going to the gynecologist isn’t always the most pleasant experience and for individuals with trauma related to sexual violence, it is a dreaded and sometime horrifying experience.
The first thing you should do in regards to your gynecologist is find one that you’re comfortable with and that you trust. If you’re uncomfortable with anything that they’re doing, tell them. If you’ve experienced sexual violence in the past, tell them.
Also, make sure that you schedule and go to your gynecologist every year for a check up. Although you only need to get a Pap test every 1-3 years (depending on your health), you should still go every year to talk about your overall health.
Wear Cotton or Nothing At All
Cotton is the best fabric to wear when it comes to underwear for a variety of reasons. It’s soft on your skin, it absorbs perspiration, and it’s breathable, which can help stop the growth of bacteria. This breathability can help with preventing Urinary Tract Infections from occurring.
Better yet, if you’re able to, it’s best to let your vagina breathe freely while wearing no underwear at all. This is especially effective while you’re sleeping because it helps keep your vagina dry and protects you against moisture build-up. However, it’s important to stay away from going commando while you’re working out because the friction of your vagina against your workout clothes can cause irritation.
Don’t Douche! Your Vagina Cleans Itself!
Many people douche (or clean) their vagina in the hopes of keeping it healthy and warding off infection, however, douching is actually causing more harm than good. Depending on what you use to douche, the dangerous side-effects may vary. Douching can cause anything from bacterial infections to UTIs, to even pelvic inflammatory disease.
If your vagina is producing an unfamiliar odor, go to your doctor. Don’t try to “clean” it by douching.
In fact, the vagina is incredible because it cleans itself! The vagina routinely cleans itself from the inside resulting in vaginal discharge.
Speaking of...Know Your Discharge
Yes, discharge is healthy and normal! If you are experiencing vaginal discharge, that it simply just your vagina cleaning itself and being the best, healthy version of itself.
However, this is where it gets super important to know yourself and know your body intimately. Know how much vaginal discharge is normal for you. This depends on each person individually. Vaginal discharge is clear or white and odorless. Although it may be uncomfortably wet in your underwear (yes, we’ve all been there) your vagina shouldn’t be in pain or experiencing any discomfort.
If you are experiencing discharge that is unfamiliar to you or different than your normal secretion, go to your doctor immediately.
Don’t Do Anything With Your Vagina That You Don’t Want To Do
Finally, the most important part of loving your vagina every day is to give it (and you) the respect that it deserves. You know what you are comfortable with and what you want to do with your body. Don’t let ANYONE try to make you or try to convince you to feel differently or do anything you don’t truly want to do. This is manipulation, this is sexual coercion and it is not okay.
You deserve the right to do what you want with your own body. It’s important not to forget your worth and to remind yourself of that worth each and every day. You own your body. No one else does. It is yours. You and your vagina are powerful, worthy, and most importantly, loved.